Monday, September 29, 2008

The Way Families Win

Winston Churchill said, "We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills." And humorist Bob Orben added, "That sounds a lot like our family vacations." And for some people it sounds a lot like everyday life.

The problem is not whether we who live in families will have squabbles, arguments and fights. My worry is more whether those conflicts will end anytime soon. I don’t want home life to become the Hundred Years’ War – going on and on with no end in sight while the casualties mount. Conflicts need to have an ending so that the family can get about its real business.

At one point during a game, the coach said to one of his young players, "Do you understand what cooperation is? What a team is?" The little boy nodded yes.

"Do you understand that what matters is whether we win together as a team?" The little boy nodded yes.

"So," the coach continued, "when a strike is called, or you are out at first, you don't argue or curse or attack the umpire. Do you understand all that?" Again, the boy nodded yes.

"Good," said the coach. "Now go over there and explain it to your mother."

I believe a family can be like that sports team. A successful family wins as a team. But if its members are intent upon winning their own individual battles with one another, the team loses.

A winning solution is to work out the differences and, when it’s over, let it be over. Then they can get back in the game as a team.

-- Steve Goodier

Image: Latimer


Anonymous said...

Good one ...

And its true too ..

We need our familiees to first instil in us the values that we wish to

bring into and give to the world ....

And I believe that's a major chunk of what we need to do to save ourselves

and our planet from self destruction ....

Thanks for presenting this the way you did ..

Its going in my newsletter alongwith links to your site ..

lemme know if you want it any different

With best wishes from



Ludwig said...

I love this article. I just recently fixed our family problem because we can't move on in our business when my parents do not work as a team. I helped them to understand each other and fortunately, they are not fighting anymore and they work as a team.