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“I miss my grandpa, and I miss talking to him about my problems,” the girl said.
“I know, dear,” sympathized her mother. “I miss him too. But can’t you talk to me?” Carol shook her head vehemently.
“Why not?” her mother persisted.
“Because you’re what we talked about,” sobbed Carol.
Children may not always confide in their parents. And adults may choose not to confide in many of their friends and family. But it is important to have someone with whom we can be emotionally intimate.
Tragically, it has been estimated that the majority of men, and many women, have nobody they could phone at 2:00 in the morning if their lives fall apart. They believe there is nobody who really wants to hear from them in a crisis. Too many of us are utterly without close and intimate friends.
The philosopher Goethe once observed, “The world is so empty if one thinks only of mountains, rivers and cities; but to know someone here and there who thinks and feels with us, and who, though distant, is close to us in spirit, this makes the earth an inhabited garden.”
Who can you be vulnerable with? Is the earth, for you, more like a lonely desert or an inhabited garden? The difference may simply be in whom you feel free to call at your most wounded moments. Do you have such a person? And are you such a person for someone else?
As it has been said, “A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.” If we are to find the kind of friend who knows the song in our hearts, we must also BE that kind of friend. And since good friends take time to grow, today is a good day to work on those friendships.
-- Steve Goodier